I have never been one who believes that to solve another's problems I should preach to them about God.
I have always assumed a rather obscure position in that sense, even though those who know me are aware
of my beliefs, because "God" is often threaded in and out of my words in a rather organic way.
I am obscure because, even as a Christian, I have been approached and even confronted by well meaning Christians who quote scripture redundantly and question my beliefs to the point of repelling me.
I often wonder if anyone using this approach actually finds another's heart open to them.
For me, it is telling that they believe that my very personal relationship with God has little validity unless I subscribe to their verbiage, their way. And with that, then it becomes the issue that each church has their own culture as well. Am I "doing it right?" is how it can feel. (To which every hair on the back of my neck stands up.) No one will ever tell me that being close to God- feeling Him, seeing Him in everything and every part of my life- hearing Him... is not "enough" or "right".
My mother said these words to me as a young adult: Every church is a house of God- and if you ever enter one where someone uses God's name in relation to guilt or shame- you have my permission to walk out.
And so, I have.
Ironically, God has sent me a disproportionate number of clients who initially come to me for various reasons as a Life Coach, but whom share with me along the way their disconnect to their higher power and/or God.
What saddens me about this, is that typically it is because of an experience like above, or an injustice, abuse or hypocrisy within the walls of the church. And, in that experience, comes the severing from it all.
Here is the sweetest piece. They separate because their idea of God is so pure, so loving- so devoid of whatever they experienced...not the opposite.
I cannot fully understand their hearts, because I have not walked in their shoes. But I suggest to them that they simply start talking to God... in the forest, by the water, before they close their eyes. Keep talking until they hear or feel Him...and continue. Because when someone connects on that level, no one can ever take it away.
That relationship is yours.
I have an amazing client- a Pastor, who has reminded me again and again in our conversation that to
Love God and Love our Neighbor is the most basic simple truth and practice.
To which I say...